They Never Planned for Adultery
Bobbi Molinsky’s comfortable life is shattered when a forwarded email from her husband’s account lands in her inbox. The email teases, “My whole evening is free again.” After an angry confrontation with Chuck, she is left with the broken remains of an eighteen year marriage. Bobbi agrees forgiving Chuck is the right thing, the God-honoring thing to do, but it leaves her empty and isolated. Teaching her second-graders is a burden. Taking care of her boys saps all her energy. It seems God Himself has walked away, leaving her to struggle alone. Bobbi can’t deny the transformation in Chuck, but genuine forgiveness requires trust, and trust is a risk she’s not willing to take. Can she let go of her deepest, most primal fears and save her marriage?
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I was born during the Summer of Love in Ashland, KY, but I moved to Pedro, OH after I married Jon, and now we live in Robinson, IL. I graduated from Eastern Kentucky University with a bachelor’s degree in Chemistry. I had a teaching certificate, but went to work for Ashland Petroleum Company as a chemist in the R&D department until my firstborn came along. I write about real-world faith. Faith that isn’t perfect, but is willing to struggle, to ask questions, and ultimately to answer the call to live beyond our limits.
I have three wonderful kids, a little dog, and a hateful cat.
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Bobbi Molinsky’s life as she knew it plummeted when a forwarded email from her husband (Chuck’s) account, hinting at a secret rendezvous, lands in her inbox while he is out of town. Upon confronting Chuck with the email, he doesn’t deny anything, claims it would have been better not to have come home, turns around, and leaves, after eighteen years of marriage!
Paula Wiseman, in Contingency, doesn’t hold back on any of the emotions that occur from the fallout due to marital infidelity. It’s raw, emotional, heart-breaking, destructive, brutal, and honest. Bobbi’s emotional roller coaster tears at your heart. The destruction of the family is heart breaking. The repercussions reverberate at work, with friends, church, and family. Trust has been violated and crushed. Paula did an excellent job of portraying the character’s feelings and issues.
Forgiveness and trust are paramount to the possibility of reconciliation, but the turmoil of the broken relationship seems never-ending. Reminders pop up unexpectedly. Bobbi knows forgiveness is what God requires, but can she let down her guard, trusting that Chuck will not re-offend?
The counsel that both Chuck and Bobbi receive is Godly and full of wisdom. Paula’s book will validate the feelings of the party that was betrayed, yet doesn’t let him/her sit there in a pity party. It is Godly tough-love advice, the kind necessary to beat the enemy of our souls, who is trying to destroy marriages. It’s a great book for counselors to share with clients. In fact, this is a book that every couple, including engaged couples, should read just for the wise marital advice and warning signals that could lead to adultery.
Contingency is not an easy read, but a vital one. The situations are real, emotional, devastating, and encouraging. It’s about forgiveness. Is forgiveness easy? No, but it’s what God requires, just as He did on our behalf. Forgive and you shall be forgiven; forgive not and you will not be forgiven. But this kind of forgiveness comes only through the Holy Spirit’s power. Although scary, it’s letting go and trusting God to bring you through to the other side, trusting once again.
This book opened my eyes to the numerous repercussions of adultery, the devastating emotional upheaval, and the hard work it takes to bring reconciliation. But it’s worth it all.
This book was provided by the author, Paula Wiseman, in exchange for my honest review. No monetary compensation was exchanged.