Dallas/Ft. Worth, TX—There is nothing more devastating than the death of a loved one. And whether it comes suddenly and unexpectedly, or at the end of a long and painful illness, every death is experienced anew, a shocking loss that takes your breath away and leaves you disoriented and lost.
Grief is mysterious, misunderstood, and experienced differently from individual to individual. Yet there are certain universal elements to the grieving process. In When You Lose Someone You Love: Comfort for Those Who Grieve (David C Cook, October 2009), author Richard Exley offers a compassionate handbook on grief. The book is written as a series of letters between a pastor and parishioner he seeks to comfort. As he offers understanding to a man suffering a profound loss, the pastor shows that grief is a healthy process that God can use to mend broken hearts.
When we lose someone we love, we are often overwhelmed by the strong emotions and confusion that come like tidal waves in our lives. Sometimes we hardly recognized ourselves or the world in which we live. Exley’s personal and empathetic epistle communicates the mercy and grace of the heavenly Father to grieving people.
Exley states, “This is not a book about grief; rather it is comfort extended to those who are even now walking through the valley of the shadow of death.”
This book is the perfect gift for anyone suffering a profound loss. It has been endorsed by many a reader who, having drawn great comfort from its pages, has passed it along to a grief-stricken friend or loved one. Pastors and ministries that regularly interact with grieving people should keep multiple copies on hand.
Revised and updated, this twentieth anniversary edition features prayers and Scripture meditation, as well as a new introduction and epilogue. Simple, profound, personal compassionate, … this book tenderly walks the grief-stricken through sorrow to peace and eventually, renewed joy.
Richard Exley is the author of 29 books and has written both fiction and nonfiction. His articles have appeared in numerous magazines, including Leadership Journal, Charisma, Ministries Today, The Pentecostal Evangel, Advance, Enrichment and New Man. He has served as senior pastor of churches in Colorado and Oklahoma, hosted several popular television and radio programs, including the nationally syndicated Straight from the Heart, and appeared on the 700 Club, Richard Roberts Live, Actions Sixty, the former PTL, The New Jim Baker Show and The Harvest Show. Richard and his wife, Brenda Starr, spend their time in a secluded cabin overlooking picturesque Beaver Lake in Northwest Arkansas.
When You Lose Someone you Love by Richard Exley
David C. Cook/October 2009
ISBN: 978-1-4347-6480-5/128 pages/softcover/$9.99
I recently reviewed a book by a different author on my blog on the grieving process from a man’s perspective and directed specifically to men. It mentioned practical ways for a man in grieving to take care of himself. I found it to be very informative and helpful to learn about and to help men cope with grieving in a healthy way. Being a woman, it took on even more importance.
Richard Exley’s book, “When You Lose Someone You Love” is, to me, a deeper continuance of the previous book. It, too, is a man’s perspective and directed to men, although this one could definitely be helpful for women as well.
Richard’s book is written in letter form so he can “speak to you directly and in a very personal manner.” His letters are in response to letters written to him. He claims, “Nothing I have written will take your pain away—only God can do that—but it will help you understand what you are experiencing, and how to get through it.”
Chapters include (italics are my descriptions):
1. When Death Comes–initial moments to days after the funeral
2. Without Warning–unspeakable pain to tragic truth
3. The Truth About Grief–emptiness to encouragement
4. The Tides of Grief–unimaginable tidal waves to redemptive work of grief
5. The Pitfalls of Grief–temptation to pretend to wallowing in grief
6. The Promise of His Presence–questioning God’s presence to Godly comfort
7. The Depth of His Love–can you trust God to God’s love
8. If God Is for Us–senseless tragedy to redemption
9. In My Father’s House–is there life after death to new life
Richard goes into great personal detail on each chapter subject, ministering, encouraging and empathizing. Each chapter also includes a prayer and Scripture reference pertinent to the subject handled. The prayers are so heartfelt that they minister straight to your heart. This is a very personal and intimate resource of great value for someone who has never been through the grieving process, bringing them back to a state of joy, or for someone who wants to minister to the grieving.
This book was provided by Audra at B&B Media Group, Inc., for the sole purpose of giving my honest review. I count it a privilege to suggest great books that may help you, whether fiction or nonfiction. Thanks to Audra and B&B Media Group and David C Cook.